I’ve seen people consider even 5’7" as short for some reason so i’m curious if it has happened with someone
I’m a tall lady (for my area, though shortest of my siblings), about the average height of guys here, and yeah. Some guys have sounded very accusatory actually - as though I grew tall on purpose to make them feel short. Oddly enough, none of those were literally short guys.
No big deal, I like my height, shorter is not something I’ve ever wished to be. All 3 of my long term relationships have been with guys about my same height.
I thought this thread was talking about applying for jobs and was so confused
I tell people I’m 4’23" and that sorts them out.
I’m 5ft11 and I think I just get rejected for being myself rather than my height 🤷🏼♂️
I’m a tiny bit shorter than 5’7" and yes, rejected multiple times because of it, but they don’t always tell you why, so some of it is speculation. I’ve dated taller women a few times as well, so it’s not that bad. My wife now is a lot shorter though, but I don’t think height played much a role for us. If I were much taller we may even be incompatible.
I’m too tall for that. But on a lot of dates i go, the woman tells me that she’s glad i’m tall and then tell me a story how they went on a date with a short guy and how awkward that was.
I lucked out into being born 5’10, not tall enough to need special clothes, but short enough so the shallow “6ft or nothing” women self filter themselves and I don’t have to deal with them myself. I had a buddy who was 5’4ish who was an absolute disgusting human being but always blamed being alone on his height, also have a buddy who 5’2ish and married to an absolutely wonderful woman
I lucked out into being born 5’10,
RIP mom
I (woman, 5’10") was dumped for being too tall.
Condolences my dude.
dudette, I think
Is dude not back to being gender neutral again? What are we going with?
Would you have sex with a dude? If yes then it’s fine
That’s one hell of a standard
Why? If dude is gender neutral, then you should be comfortable using the phrase “I’d have sex with that dude”.
I’d say it’s a expression that does have gender associations, but it’s not offensive or anything to call a woman dude in the right context. If anything it is usually used as a gesture of camaraderie, in this case because a woman has suffered in a way that men can understand.
I mean, 5’7" is quite short.
Not that I would wish it on anyone to be rejected because of their height, but we’re all entitled to our sexual preferences, without the burden of justification. And this one seems incredibly reasonable, unless maybe you’re in Asia where 5’7" is like top 1 percentile?
I would never date any man or woman below 5’10" because I prefer my partner to be taller than me. I generally consider anything less than 5’8" to be very short, and anyone over 6’0" to be tall.
5’7" isn’t “quite short” because 5’7.5" is the global average height.
Average height where I am in the UK is 5’9" for men (175cm). I’m not dating in Asia so the global averages aren’t really relevant.
Don’t feel insecure though, it’s just each to their own, and I hope you find someone awesome who loves you and is a good fit! (if you haven’t already of course!)
I’m quite lucky because I found a girlfriend who is the same height as me. We’re a really good fit together physically and much more importantly we’re absolute soulmates, and in the end that’s what matters.
And for what it’s worth, before I met my gf when I was younger, I still went on a date with a trans bi dude who was like 5’3" or 5’6" or something because I found him super interesting. Didn’t work out, and it was actually me getting turned down, so there’s that, I didn’t discard him as a choice just because of his height nor even the potential physical incompatibilities.
I also once set up a date with a self-proclaimed “incel” Chinese immigrant who was around the 150-160cm mark, but he got paranoid and thought it was a scam because I listed the height req on my profile, and I was really busy and not responding much because I was trying to nail down an internship at the same time 🤣
One time , I went on a date with a cishet dude who said he was 6’0", so I took the occasion to wear my heels, turns out dude lied and just looked like my son the entire time, he also had a bit of a babyface, and it didn’t help he was a software engineer, and I was unemployed, but I talked circles around him in terms of computer stuff when I started infodumping about hackintoshing old vaio laptops over dinner.
Never spoke to him after that and neither did he to me lol, awkward all around lmao
5’9" is also not much bigger than 5’7’, so it still isn’t “quite short” in comparison.
Why would I feel insecure?
Not you specifically necessarily, but my comment got quite downvoted so I figured I’d include that as a disclaimer just in case
Why do you believe that anyone down voting you is insecure? Personally I down voted you because you are factually incorrect, and I would assume that is why others are doing so.
How am I factually incorrect? I didn’t even state any facts. A statement like 5’7" is quite short is fairly subjective by its nature because short/tall are qualitative descriptors that it’s hard to quantify even with a frame of reference and averages agreed upon.
Global is the key word. In Denmark 5’7" is definitely short. In North Korea, that would be huge.
Denmark has an average Height of 181.6cm for males, and North Korea has an average of 165.6cm. The Global average height is 171 cm, leaving Denmark 10.6cm above average and North Korea is 5.4cm below the average, and a difference of 16cm between the average of the two populations.
This is not a “huge”, or a “definitely short” kind of difference.
You don’t think that’s a significant difference in average height? Cuz that’s a pretty big difference to me. Denmark’s average being around 6’ when most of the rest of us consider that tall is pretty significant
You don’t think that’s a significant difference in average height?
I literally just said that, so yes.
Cuz that’s a pretty big difference to me. Denmark’s average being around 6’ when most of the rest of us consider that tall is pretty significant
I am 193cm and my partner is about 35cm smaller than me. That is a significant difference in my opinion, while 16cm is not.
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My ex did tell me I’m shorter than she wants her bf to be. I was still talker than her by 2-3 inch but she wanted me taller than her in heels. And suggested I do exercises to get taller.
I ended it with her soon after that. I think if someone has thought like that, there are other common patterns that makes the relationship too much to worth it. My wife now is same height as me and we’re happy about that, height difference of several inches seems weird/difficult to imagine now.
I’m guessing you’re a man ?
I’m 5’4 male and average looking and a bit chubby
Dude, if you have decent hygiene, are a basic human being and treat people with respect, you will rise above all the other men who are stupid, racist, sexist, entitled pieces of shit
The bar is set REALLY low
Really Really low
Also if someone rejects you for your height consider he/she is doing you a favor by signaling he/she is not mature / has fucked up priorities for a relationship
People do get rejected for their height lol, ppl are shallow, all woman aren’t saints, what you should be saying is you should avoid anyone that cares about height, theyll remove themselves and its a non issue, ive had girls attracted to me calling me 6 foot be less atteacted to me visibly when I corrected them and said im actually 5 10 no logic in it lol
I am 5’4" and though no one has ever outright told me they rejected me because of it directly, it almost certainly is a leading reason I have fewer interested parties. It seems like most women specifically mention height in their requirements. It’s too bad, I’d date a tall woman. Karlach is my favorite.
Being short helped me grow a personality and learn to be charismatic to overcome my height, and I’ve done okay, but it’d be foolish to say it’s not a huge hurdle in dating.
I’m 5’8, plenty of men aren’t interested in women as tall as they are.
Also 172/5’8 and same, several times! Even from me who were still taller than me! Also dated someone who didn’t care and was 175/5’9 and when we went out together and my shoes made me taller than him, we’d get an average of like 10 comments, all from men, about it. Lots of friends have told me their only slightly taller ex bf wouldn’t ‘let’ them wear heels.
Also, on a dating app, I’d get about 50/50 matches from masc and fem people when I didn’t list my height. When I did list it, I’d get mostly fem ones, and all the masc ones were tall. And fewer matches overall.
yes! it’s wild getting it from guys who are already taller than me. I’m lucky enough to have not had the experience of looking for a partner on dating apps(unless discord counts?), but i hear all the time about how absurdly superficial they are
